What makes a person interesting to you? Is it the way they look? Is it what they do? Is it where they’ve been or what they believe in? Does what a person say make you more interested in them or is it the way they say it? Chances are it’s a combination of the above plus a lot more. The point is that there are a lot of things that attract many different types of people and if you’re looking for a relationship with someone worthy of your company you had better be paying attention to how you plan on attracting them.
Online dating is a unique way to meet people. The vast majority of people look at your picture first and then they might look at what you’ve written. That’s the order it will go in so if you don’t have a picture, you need to get one! Beyond that, it comes down to words. I can’t say for certain what it is that you’re attracted to or what the rest of the world is after, but for me, I know that any person I connect with will read. I want them to read. It says something about the type of person they are. This means that what I convey through my profile, instant messaging or email correspondence becomes extremely important.
“Communication and dating are both forms of art.”
Never forget the power of questions. Asking questions shows you’re interested in someone. It says you have a curious mind and it’s specifically focused on finding out about the person you’re chatting with. My golden rule is to ask at least one question every time I send an email. When instant messaging, I always lead with questions and use them whenever there appears to be a lull in conversation. To be engaging you must engage. Hopefully, with a little practice, down the line you just might find yourself landing a special engagement!
Keep whatever you’re saying as positive as can be. If someone asks you about a breakup and you’re okay talking about it, try and spin it in as positive a way as possible. Never tell people in the beginning what you don’t want. Always focus on what you’re after. People don’t seek the negative so if you keep your focus, you’ll stand a better chance of keeping your contact interested.
Trading words can become tiring across a digital void. At some point you’ll want to move towards a face-to-face meeting The point here is that you may get really good at your digital correspondence and forget that a lot of people just aren’t skilled in the area or don’t enjoy endless emailing and IM conversations. You need to say something for love, but make sure you don’t loose track of the ultimate goal.
Communication and dating are both forms of art. Master them and you will be one step closer to being the da Vinci of dating. Fail to pay attention and that perfect connection may just slip through your fingers!